Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2768: Gwyneth Paltrow, Chris Martin - and the VERY UNconscious Uncoupling foretelling their Conscious Uncoupling (VIDEO, PHOTOS)

Although Gwyneth did not coin the term "Conscious Uncoupling" - she has certainly popularizing it in the last 72 hours. In the moment of this image however, Ms. Paltrow is exhibiting a very strong SUBconscious uncoupling.

Forty percent of the mass of the human brain is dedicated towards vision. In addition, of the five senses - vision accounts for ninety percent of our sensory input. So the human brain is very visually-biased (even for you "non-visual thinkers" out there) - while the senses of touch, taste, smell and hearing have to share the remaining ten percent. When the eyes are shut - a bit less blood flows to these visual brain and therefor a less nutrients including oxygen gets distributed there. The neuro-chemical activity of the other portions of the brain is thus up-regulated while the visual centers are momentarily down-regulated. Our non-visual senses become sharper - as well as the cognitive and emotional functions. This phenomenon occurs very rapidly - almost instantaneously.

When we kiss with our eyelids shut because we want to heighten the emotional experience of the moment. We want to drink in every ounce - every drop of the kiss. And if we kiss with our eyelids closed - the moment - and therefore the relationship has less emotional impact. Granted we all get distracted from time to time - but kisses should not be one of these times. A highly reliable signal of waning of affection or love in any relationship (spouse, child, parent, platonic friendship, etc.) are eyes remaining open during a kiss.

Although the status Coldplay musician Chris Martin's eyelids at this instant are difficult to discern (they are perhaps slightly opened) in this moderate-resolution image, Gwyneth's are certainly opened. Does your spouse kiss with eyes open? Do you?

What other signals (there are several) of low or waning affection are seen in this image?

See also:

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2701: Cuddling, Romance, Affection and Foot-Shunning - Body Language Tells

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2663: Caroline Wozniacki and Rory McIlroy Engaged - A Body Language Sign of Affection

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2764: Embarrassment, Affection & Flirtation - Mila Kunis & Ashton Kutcher - Kiss Cam Body Language

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2643: Is this Hug More Sexual or Affectionate? Student Suspended One Year for Hugging a Teacher

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2649: How a Kiss can Change the World - Body Language of Affection

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2748: Tatia Pilieva's Brilliant Video "First Kiss" - Body Language of Romance and Affection

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2424:  Giada De Laurentiis on Conan O'Brien  Beautiful Teeth but Insincere Smiles and  Some Body Language Signals of Waning Love 

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2502:  A Body Language Sign of True Love & Affection -  A Father Reunited with Young Son Who He Believed died in  Syria Poison Gas Attack

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2767: Barack Obama Meets Pope Francis - The Body Language "Being Beta"

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Body Language Analysis No. 2701: Cuddling, Romance, Affection and Foot-Shunning - Nonverbal Tells (PHOTO)

In the beginning of relationship as a couple crescendos through multiple stages of intimacy, often the last place we let our lovers touch is our feet. As the relationship continues, foot touching will occur the vast majority of the time (although there is a relatively small minority of individuals who never want their feet touched - it may also be due a relationship-specific idiosyncrasy).

Many people cannot distinguish sex from affection. Once cuddling commences however and the feet are touching, there is a high likelihood of true affection. Indeed love may be present. However once this foot-contact has been established - a drop-off of this bed room body language is a strong signal of waning love and diminished affection.

If affection is shunned and not warmly received it will seek a place where it is welcome. Foot-shunning is one of many nonverbal signs of waning affection, lessening of love and perhaps that an extra-marital affair is in the works. So if your spouse displays less affection, particularly with poor foot contact during cuddling, a red flag has been raised. Take heed.

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See also:

Romance, Marriage and Dating - Body Language Secret No. 771: Ann's and Mitt's Affectionate Hug

Romance, Dating & Marriage - Body Language Secret No. 1500:  Six Degrees? Leaning In, Head Touching and the Manubrium - Kyra and Kevin are 10th Cousins, Once Removed

Dating & Romance Body Language Secret No. 2020:  The Art of Looking Flirtatious

Dating & Romance Nonverbal Communication Secret No. 1010:  What Makes the Twinkle in Her Eye?

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 1916:  Katie Holmes & Tom Cruise are getting a Divorce -  What Body Language Metric could have Predicted this  Back When They Were Dating? 

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 1705:  François Hollande & the French Presidential Election  The Pistol Steeple and Emotional Dissonance 

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2699: Reince Priebus and the Republican Get it All Wrong While Trying to Win Woman Voters - Got Empathy?

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Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2663: Caroline Wozniacki and Rory McIlroy Engaged - A Body Language Sign of Affection (VIDEO, PHOTOS)

Caroline Wozniacki and Rory McIlroy have just announced their engagement via Wozniacki' twitter account (New Year's Eve 2013).

Wozniacki and McIlroy are both former World No. 1 ranked athletes in tennis and golf respectively.

Why it's possible to have love without (or with minimal) affection, when affection is felt and displayed - love is also present (though of course it's not always romantic love). 

... And within the context of romantic relationships - when affection is waning, it's a warning signal that love many be very well also be diminishing.

In all three of these images both Wozniacki's and McIlroy's head & neck are leaning towards each other - displaying certain affection.

Body Language signals of affection are often poorly understood and unfortunately often confused with and "lumped-in" with sexuality and sexual displays. This is particularly true when it comes to dating, romantic and/or marital scenarios.  And while affection can and should exist during sex - affection (and therefore affectionate displays) can and should "stand on their own" for romantic love to be healthy and project longevity.

Quick - how many affectionate nonverbal signals can you think of? How many do you display on a regular basis?

See also:

Sincerity Secret # 20: Fiero Feels Good, Caroline Wozniacki & Our Mirror Neurons

Nonverbal Communication Secret # 1423:  Head First Affection &  Head Surrogate Hugs

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2643: Is this Hug More Sexual or Affectionate? Student Suspended One Year for Hugging a Teacher

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2662: Mike Shanahan Fired - A Man of Many Body Language Tells

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2599: Spotting Subtle Signals of Arrogance - Tiger Woods and Rachel Nichols

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2478:  Acting Affectionate Engenders Affection  Body Language and Strangers 

Body Language Secret # 105: Parental Affection and Love

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2502:  A Body Language Sign of True Love & Affection -  A Father Reunited with Young Son Who He Believed died in  Syria Poison Gas Attack 

Romance, Flirting & Dating Body Language Secret # 1893:  Nonverbal Communication of the Facial Platter 

Dating & Romance Body Language Secret # 2020:  The Art of Looking Flirtatious

Romance and Dating Secret # 231:  A Classic Female Sexual Display 



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Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2203: A Body Language Metric of Intimacy and Affection - How Do YOU cuddle?

Once a relationship begins, and we progress through the various stages of intimacy, one of the last places we let our lovers touch is our feet. Provided the relationship continues, this touching will occur the vast majority of the time. Of course, there are some people who never are comfortable with foot touching, but these are a relative minority; but they must be viewed through the nonverbal filter of objectivity. It may not be that their feet are sensitive - it may just be you.

Unfortunately many people cannot distinguish sex from affection. When cuddling, once the feet touch - it strongly suggests that true affection, and perhaps love is present. Conversely, once this habit is established - a cessation of this bed room body language is a signal of waning love and affection. It is one of many nonverbal signs that an extra-marital affair may be occurring or of an impending break-up - for affection needs and seeks an outlet. So if you suspect your lover is cheating on you, or your relationship has developed a serious rift - how your feet interact may be the first place to look.

See also:

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2: Body Language of Blake Lively and Penn Badgley  Strongly Suggests an Impending Break-up in Near Future 

Nonverbal Communication Analysis - Romance and Dating Secret # 202: Revealed in a Kiss - Prince Albert and Princess Charlene

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 1916:  Katie Holmes & Tom Cruise are getting a Divorce -  What Body Language Metric Predicted This?

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2108:  Rihanna's and Chris Brown's Kiss and Hug - What are they REALLY feeling?

Romance, Marriage and Dating - Body Language Secret # 609: Going from High Heels to Flats and then back to Heels 

Nonverbal Communication Analysis - Flirting and Romance Secret # 39:  Affectionate vs. Non-Affectionate Hug 

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 1921:  Who was More Dominant -  Tom Cruise or Katie Holmes?

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Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2107: Andy Murray, Affection and Savoring the Moment

Andy Murray finally won his major. He was the first British (Scottish) man since 1936 to do so. Those who even peripherally follow tennis have watched and rooted for him during this struggle. After finishing a heart-wrenching second to Roger Federer at Wimbledon, and then defeating Federer a few weeks later to win a Gold Medal at the London Olympics, Murray beat Novak Djokovic in five sets at the U.S. Open yesterday at Flushing Meadows, 7–6(12–10), 7–5, 2–6, 3–6, 6–2.

Whenever we kiss another person, or in this case a highly-symbolic object - if our eyes are closed during the kiss, it is a strong nonverbal indicator of deep affection. Ninety-percent of our sensory input is visual - as is forty percent of the human brain's mass. Thus when we close our eyes, the blood flow/oxygen/nutrients are slightly increased to the non-visual portions of the brain - smell, taste, touch, hearing as well as cognition and emotional functions. We shut our eyes when we are trying to drink-in the entire experience and fully savor the moment. This all occurs subconsciously. In the context of a relationship, the primary focus of the mind during a kiss should be love and affection. If there is a repeated pattern of "eyes open during kissing" (and/or hugging) - this is a body language red flag of waning (or false) affection.

See also:

Analysis # 2: Body Language of Blake Lively and Penn Badgley Strongly Suggests an Impending Break-up in Near Future

Analysis # 202: Revealed in a Kiss - Prince Albert and Princess Charlene

Analysis # 363: Simon Cowell, Kissing and Lack of Affection

Analysis # 1916: Katie Holmes & Tom Cruise - What Body Language Metric Predicted their Divorce?

Analysis-Secret # 737: Cuddling with your Feet

Analysis # 2108: Rihanna's and Chris Brown's Kiss and Hug - What are they REALLY feeling?

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Dating & Romance Body Language Secret # 363: Simon Cowell, Kissing and Lack of Affection

Simon Cowell is shown here kissing his girl friend, Mezhgan Hussainy on the Jay Leno Show. Not too many of us kiss our significant others on national T.V. But if you ever get the opportunity, it's good advice not to conduct yourself in a perfunctory manner. If true affection is the primary emotional driver, the eyes are virtually always closed. If not, it's a strong indicator the emotions are being focused elsewhere ... or worse. We close our eyes during a kiss in an effort to heighten the affection we are feeling and "drink in" the entire experience. The visual portion of our Brain accounts for 40 percent of its mass and vision is responsible for 90 percent of our sensory input. Thus when we close our eyes, less energy and resources are needed for sight - so there is a temporary increase in relative blood flow and function to the non-visual parts of our brains. This, coupled with the decrease in visual sensory stimulus load, naturally heightens touch, smell, taste and hearing - as well as our cognitive and emotional ability. When emotions other than affection and love are a higher priority - the eyes remain open. All this is regulated subconsciously. A pattern of repeated lack of eyelid closure during kissing (and hugging) - is a very strong indicator of waning or feigned love & affection.

See also: Romance and Dating Secret # 202: Revealed in a Kiss - Prince Albert and Princess Charlene

and Flirting and Romance Secret # 2: Hugs as a Measure of Affection - Impending Break-up

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