Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3077: Caroline Wozniacki & Rory McIlroy - One Reason Why Relationships Fail - and an Important Warning Sign (PHOTO)

When a woman is equal to, almost the same height - or taller than her boyfriend, fiancé, or husband - she will very often discontinue wearing heels. This body language behavior is particularly strong in the context of a relatively new relationship. What are the reasons for this? - the woman wants to feel feminine, she also wants to make her man feel masculine - and she does not want to constantly remind him of his relative short stature. Instinctively she knows that doing so will lead to tensions of many sorts. Most women will say, "It just doesn't feel right!" to be taller than her partner.

Of course there are some women who never stop wearing heels when dating or when eventually they marry shorter men. They will not tolerate such social posturing and are thus very confident and alpha females (e.g. Carla Bruni) - but to make such a relationship last (a relative term to be sure when it comes to dating or marriage) they must be with a very confident man (e.g. Nicolas Sarkozy).

However when a woman who had initially adopted a "no heels" or short heels habit - converts back to wearing heels (with the exception of some professional settings), this is a warning sign that she no longer prioritizes their height disparity and thus indicates a drop of empathy towards her partner and signals an emotional rift, falling out of love or perhaps even infidelity (e.g., she wants to appear attractive to other potential or actual partners). Empathy is directly correlated with love and relationship longevity.

Moreover the Polish Anthropologist, Boguslaw Pawlowski, Ph.D., has noticed a very interesting predictor of both attraction as well as relationship longevity - Male to Female height ratio. If the man is 9% taller than the woman (1.09 times taller - or inversely stated - if the woman is 91.7% the height of the man) - this is the optimum height for attraction and relationship longevity.

It's interesting to note that Tom Cruise (5'7" [170.2 cm]) is 2 inches (3.08 cm) shorter than his then-wife Katie Holmes (5'9" [175.25 cm]). Their male-to-female ratio was only 0.97! Conversely, Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward - who were married for 50 years - had a ratio of exactly 1.09. Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick have a ratio of 1.085 and their marriage is going on 27 years.

Caroline Wozniacki is taller than her former fiancé - and is listed at 5'10" (177.8 cm) while Rory McIlroy is generously reported to be 5'9" (175.25 cm) - this would put their height ratio at 0.985. Yet looking at the above image, even when taking into account her heels and the fact he is closer to the camera - it seems she is taller than him by a greater margin of 1 inch - but more like 2 to 3 inches (putting this estimated ratio between 0.957 and 0.971). Of course these are only statistical correlations - and statistics do not govern the behavior of individual people, relationships, athletes, or atoms. Statistics govern large groups. So while there are many exceptions - yet these tenancies are very interesting and not to be ignored.

See also:

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3078: Tom Brady, Deflategate, Deception and Body Language

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2663: Caroline Wozniacki and Rory McIlroy Engaged - A Body Language Sign of Affection

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2827: Caroline Wozniacki and Rory McIlroy - She was the Alpha, He was the Beta

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2825: Rory McIlroy and Caroline Wozniacki break off their Engagement - Body Language Tells

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2826: Caroline Wozniacki & Rory McIlroy Call Off Their Engagement - Body Language and Dominance

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2701: Cuddling, Romance, Affection and Foot-Shunning

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2:  Body Language of Blake Lively and Penn Badgley - Strongly Suggests an Impending Break-up in Near Future

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2424:  Giada De Laurentiis on Conan O'Brien  Beautiful Teeth but Insincere Smiles and  Some Body Language Signals of Waning Love


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Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3023: High Heels and Their Ability to Influencing Men's Decision Making (PHOTO)

While this may come as no surprise to some, there is a very strong and direct relationship to the height of a woman's heel and her ability to influence a man's decision. While wearing heels is not magic - but it would seem that it's nearly so. Statistically, a woman wearing 2 inch heels (~5.1 cm) has a 50% greater ability to influence a man compared with another who is wearing flats - AND 4 inch heels (~ 10.2 cm) DOUBLES her ability to win-over a man's thinking. This relationship is more prominent at their first meeting and early in any business or professional scenario - and diminishes somewhat with familiarity.

Thus although it may not be healthy for the back, knees, hips or feet - any female attorney or salesperson and certainly women in many other professions - give themselves a huge professional advantage by wearing heels. This is profound leverage ladies!

See also:

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3022: Bill Cosby's Decades-Long Trademark Look - What Does It Tell Us

Romance, Marriage and Dating - Body Language Secret # 609: Going from High Heels to Flats and then back to Heels

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2860: Michelle Obama regarding the First Woman President - What Does She Really Think?

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2910: Becky Hammon, First Female Full-Time NBA Assistant Basketball Coach and an Under-used Body Language Illustrator

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2551: Marina Shifrin, Woman from "I Quit" Viral Video gets Job Offer from Queen Latifah


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Romance, Marriage and Dating - Body Language Secret No. 609: Going from High Heels to Flats and then back to Heels (PHOTO)

When a woman is close to, the same height or taller than her husband or boy friend - she will very often stop wearing high heels and wear shoes with low heels or even flats. This is very prevalent nonverbal early in the relationship. She does this for several reasons - to make him feel more masculine - and to make herself feel more feminine. In addition, particularly if he is shorter than average - she does not want to remind him of his short stature (super models, Carla Bruni and Nicolas Sarkozy, etc., excluded).

Thus when the opposite occurs - and a woman begins to wear high heels significantly more often (and her male partner is short in either a relative or absolute sense), especially if she deliberately wore shorter heels or flats early in the relationship - this can be a strong warning signal of a drifting apart in the relationship (waning of affection) or even an affair (a notable exception here is for a job which dictates a change in professional attire).

One obvious reason for this body language-shoe change is the desire to be attractive to other potential partners. It is just as common however, that this is a symptom of a "turning off" or "dialing down" of empathy and affection for their soon to be Ex-boyfriend/Ex-husband. Affection and Empathy are strongly related to, and proportional to love.

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