Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3059: Kiss Cam - Benny the Bull to the Rescue - Distancing Behavior and Tongue-in-Cheek (VIDEO, PHOTOS)

Last night the Mascot "Benny the Bull" of the Chicago Bulls came to the rescue of a Boston Celtics fan whose partner was busy on his cell phone and refused to acknowledge the camera, crowd and his girlfriend/wife and needless to say no kissing ensued. She certainly could use a little bit more finesse in her negotiation tactics - and many men would have behaved similarly. Of course we don't know the back story here or relative importance of the phone call.

After being hit and scolded, the man on his mobile phone switches hands and turns away from his partner. In retrospect and with the benefit of a video, most all can see the obviousness of this distancing and disrespectful behavior - the proverbial "Cold Shoulder".

Although it's at the limits of this low resolution image, three seconds later after she turns forward and rotates her head a bit to her left (away from her partner more directly at the camera), she appears to display a "Tongue-in-Cheek" nonverbal with her tongue pushing to her left cheek (also better viewed within the dynamic context of the video). The tongue-in-cheek maneuver may indicate several different emotions depending on the other nonverbals which accompanies it. In this cluster-context it indicates "I just caught you" or "I just won" (Do you know the other meanings?).

Note the man sitting immediately in back of her puts his hand on his mouth/face as he is trying to emotionally process what is going on in front of him (one of many signals of a high empathy quotient).

See also:

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3058: Stuart Scott's ESPY Award Speech - a Common Yet Very Under-appreciated Signal of Sadness/Grief Suppression

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2796: Olivia Wilde, Butter, Jon Stewart and the Tongue in Cheek

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2434:  Brad Pitt's Tongue-in-Cheek regarding  Reasons for Choosing to Work on "World War Z"

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2352:  Mila Kunis' Tongue in Cheek  Graham Norton Part II

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2748: Tatia Pilieva's Brilliant Video "First Kiss" - Body Language of Romance and Affection

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2987: Tristan Thompson Kisses Sideline Reporter Allie Clifton

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2678: French President François Hollande, Valerie Trierweiler and Julie Gayet - Of Affairs, Affection and Body Language Tells

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2649: How a Kiss can Change the World - Body Language of Affection

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Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2349: Barack Obama, The Miami Heat & Chicago Bulls - POTUS's Body Language

Today President Barack Obama visited Miami, Florida where he is trying to drum up public support for a plan to reinvigorate the economy. He opened his speech with an "icebreaker" - joking with the audience regarding (his hometown) Chicago Bulls who recently defeated the Miami Heat - thus putting to an end the second longest win streak in NBA history (27 games).

If you're accustomed to watching Barack Obama's body language, you'll agree that he touches his head and face fare less often than most skilled public speakers. However, during the 0:06 - 0:10 segment of the above video (and in the first image below), he scratches the top of his head as he says, "...I,I,I know you guys aren't happy with my Chicago Bulls ...." This head-touching MAP (manipulator, adaptor, pacifier) nonverbal indicates a relatively pure form of anxiety. Touching/rubbing/scratching the top, back, or sides (as long as it does not involve or is close to the ear) of the head does NOT indicate deception. However ......

See also:

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2156:  Barack Obama's Body Language at Al Smith Charity Dinner - Comedy, White Lies and Facial Touching MAPs

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2175: Mayor Bloomberg, Body Language,  Hurricane Sandy and the NYC Marathon

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2033:  Lie Detection, Sergey Lavrov and Syria

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2176: James Carville's Body Language - Pennsylvania & Swing States

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2342: Barack Obama at Jerusalem Convention Center in Israel  What the President's Body Language Says to a Heckler

Negotiation Body Language Secret # 199:  When a Lie is Told, Heard or Visualized by ....Vladimir's Eye

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2298: Kylie & Kendall Jenner Do NOT Like Kanye West  Their Body Language Contradicts their Words - Spells another Split-up in Kim Kardashian's Future

During the 0:10 - 0:11 segment of the video, POTUS rubs his nose (imaged below). This nonverbal tell indicates deception. On some level there is a low-level form of lie taking place. The President is saying something like, "I can't believe I just used this line on this crowd" in his own self-talk/internal dialog - and yet still he did so. This is a form of a self-deception and emotional conflict. When such "white-lies" are told - most all recognize these as a form of hyperbole. Yet they are still lies - and his body language reveals such. Lower level lies often are manifested by MAPs committed with the non-dominant hand. Here the President reveals it's a small fib he's told to himself, because he uses his right hand. He tends to reveal whoppers to us with his left hand. You do the same if you're a southpaw.

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Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2319: Dennis Rodman Hugging Kim Jong-un ... Body Language Tells

Dennis Rodman, along with the Harlem Globe Trotters, visited North Korea this week. Kim Jung-un, the country's leader is known to be an avid basketball fan, particularly of the Chicago Bulls. Here "The Worm" is shown hugging the Supreme Leader of North Korea. Of course, everyone would guess this hug is not one of affection - however although this is not a video - this photo does give some great body language illustrators as to the level of discomfort being felt here by both men. Note that both of their right hands are several centimeters off their respective backs. This indicates there is a very high likelihood that this image was captured while each man was patting each other. Such a "pat on the back" signals, "let's end this hug now". If it occurs from the beginning of the hug, it's a sure nonverbal sign of a low level of comfort (which very probably occurred here). And if such a patting begins to occur during hugs in the context of marriage or dating, etc. (not meant to be implied in this scenario of course), it is a very strong signal of a decrescendo of affection and a waning of the relationship.

What other nonverbal signals are present here which indicate low affection and low comfort?

See also:

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 1705:  North Korean Statues of Kim Jong-il & Kim Il-sung

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2:  Body Language of Blake Lively and Penn Badgley  Strongly Suggests an Impending Break-up in Near Future

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 1898:  Heat, Hugs & Head Surrogates

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2317:  "The Rescuing Hug" -  Body Language of Human Touch & Kangaroo Care

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 2179:  Mitt Romney & Barack Obama -  Sincere Hugs and True Affection

Nonverbal Communication Analysis # 1808: Time Magazine's  Breast Feeding, Dr. William Sears, and Attachment Parenting Controversy - Shows Emotional Dissonance at Best

Body Language Secret # 105: Parental Affection and Love




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Negotiation Body Language Secret # 334: Fear and Surprise - as Bulls Beat Lakers

On Christmas Day, the Los Angeles Lakers lost to the Chicago Bulls, 88-87. In this image of the Lakers' Troy Murphy crashing into the court side audience, there are two primary emotions on display. The lady dressed in black, with the long dark hair, immediately to Murphy's back-left (our right) has her mouth opened in the classic oval-round surprise configuration with a dropped jaw. Her eyes are closed in a protective reflex. Surprise is the briefest of all our emotions. If it lasts longer than a couple of seconds, it may very well have a feigned component - or perhaps is entirely insincere. Although it is difficult to see, the man in the white shirt to her left has his eye lids opened wide and his forehead and eyebrows are raised - also nonverbals indicative of surprise.

On the opposite side of Murphy are both a man a woman with their mouth's in a classic fear expression. It is very possible that just prior to this photo, they both exhibited surprise. The emotion of surprise is nearly always rapidly followed by a second emotion - e.g., fear, anger, embarrassment, joy-happiness, etc.

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