Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3975: Travis Kalanick and Sheryl Sandberg - and Uber's Need for Empathy, Sincerity, and Emotional Intelligence (VIDEO, PHOTOS)





Travis Kalanick was forced to resign as the CEO of Uber Today. After a tumultuous year, the company's shareholders made it clear his continued leadership in that office was both unsupportable and unwise. Uber board member, Arianna Huffington is pushing for Facebook's COO, Sheryl Sandberg, to replace Mr. Kalanick.





Whenever you evaluate another person's personality, whether it be in the act of interviewing, being interviewed, a negotiation, a testimony, dating, or any kind of business interaction - we all - to some extent, size-up the many qualities of the other person's character - both consciously and unconsciously. Perhaps the two most important attributes are sincerity (which although wider in scope, also includes honesty) as well as their empathy level.



























There's no doubt that Travis Kalanick and Sheryl Sandberg are both creative, intelligent people with many skills. Yet after viewing several interviews of Mr. Kalanick and Ms. Sandberg, if you are skilled at nonverbal communication and emotional intelligence assessment, you should be able to discern that Kalanick's empathy and sincerity quotients are low while Sandberg's are both quite high. Moreover, Mr. Kalanick also displays indications of poor impulse control - which is not exhibited by Ms. Sandberg.

























Summary: The ability to accurately vet is a skill for which there is no substitute. Yet such competence is rarely learned or taught. Qualities which should always be determined are the candidate's:
  • Empathy Quotient
  • Sincerity Quotient
  • Susceptibility to Poor Impulse Control
With each these three characteristics, Sheryl Sandberg's scores are far superior to Travis Kalanick's. Ms. Sandberg's leadership will greatly benefit Uber - but will certainly be Facebook's loss.

How skilled are you at qualifying and quantifying these attributes?

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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3974: Elle Fanning, Robert De Niro, and Easter

Body Language Analysis No. 3972: Vladimir Putin, Oliver Stone, and a Facial Expression Red Flag

Body Language Analysis No. 3970: Kamala Harris and Jeff Sessions, Part II - Deception, Alpha, and Beta Behavior

Body Language Analysis No. 3968: The Grenfell Tower Fire, Empathy, and Emotional Processing

Body Language Analysis No. 3965: Manspreading, Madrid, and a Business Faux Pas

Body Language Analysis No. 3932: Raúl Labrador's Town Hall statement, "Nobody dies because they don't have access to healthcare..."

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3060: Bradley Cooper, Air Guitar, Neil Young & the R2E2 Expression

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3292: Empathy, Yawning and Dogs

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3864: Uber's CEO, Travis Kalanick Arguing with an Uber Driver regarding Falling Fares


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Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3974: Elle Fanning, Robert De Niro, and Easter - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (VIDEO, PHOTOS)




During Elle Fanning's recent guest appearance on Jimmy Kimmel Live!, she recounted an Easter from her childhood, when her family had Robert De Niro's family as guests in their home. Her description of an Easter Egg Hunt provides an excellent nonverbal example of an honest effort to recall an event (a high sincerity quotient) - followed by an immediate change of emotional direction.

























In this first image, Elle Fanning is focusing her eyes on the middle-distance (4:35). This signifies an honest, concentrated effort to recall an event.


























In the next moment (4:36) Ms. Fanning displays the nonverbal cluster of:
  • Squinting her eyes - focusing her thought
  • Exhaling - clearing the mind and concentrating
  • Displaying a Lateral Lip Purse (to her left) - deciding between a small number of choices    (e.g., What should I tell him?)



























Next, we see very rapid blinking/fluttering before she says, "... I don't remember if they did ..." (4:37).



























Then Elle looks up/up to her left (4:38) - significant for the visual recall of a specific event. This change is crucial - for she has remembered specifically what happened.


Summary: Although Elle Fanning is somewhat nebulous in her VERBAL LANGUAGE in how her mother eventually resolved the Easter Egg Hunt dilemma ("...  I feel like I, pr, probably my Mom, like, did some nice, she's like, 'Everyone gets one ...") - Elle's BODY LANGUAGE shows us that she did, in fact, recall what specifically happened here - but Fanning refrained from telling the full/true story - probably in an effort to save someone embarrassment. Importantly, we can tell the precise second she decided to switch directions and tell a fib. And although this is a benign little lie which has no serious consequences, it's of profound importance in the everyday world to spot these moments.

Intriguingly, research shows that this is one of the most common reasons WOMEN lie - to save others from emotional discomfort/embarrassment. Men will not lie for this reason as often.


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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3973: Alex Jones, Megyn Kelly, and a Fundamental Insincerity Tell

Body Language Analysis No. 3971: Elon Musk, Amber Heard, Affection, and Ownership

Body Language Analysis No. 3969: Vladimir Putin Offers James Comey Asylum

Body Language Analysis No. 3967: Jeff Sessions' Testimony, Microexpressions, and Duping Delight

Body Language Analysis No. 3964: What Donald Trump Really Thinks about James Comey

Body Language Analysis No. 3941: H.R. McMaster’s Press Conference, Part II — Donald Trump, Russia & Classified Information

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3885: Vogue's 73 Questions with Selena Gomez

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3862: Oscars Mistake - "La La Land" erroneously named Best Picture over "Moonlight" 

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3798: Elle Fanning, Channing Tatum and Dialing Up the Alpha 


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Body Language Analysis No. 3973: Alex Jones, Megyn Kelly, and a Fundamental Insincerity Tell - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (VIDEO, PHOTOS)





As you learn body language, one crucial skill to learn (and hone) is the ability to detect when a person is being insincere. "Insincerity vs. Sincerity" casts a wider net than "Dishonesty vs. Honesty" - for while a person may not be lying to you in any given moment, if their personality is overall, an insincere one, they will lie to you - count on it. And often they are very skilled in getting closer to you - whether it be in business or in your personal life. Moreover, their lies will do more damage, often much more damage, than other peoples' lies. So while it is very important to be able to spot a lie, it is even more important to detect those with chronically insincere personalities.

So it's not surprising that one of the most common questions I get asked is, "What are some ways I tell if a person is being insincere?"

There are many answers to this question, however, statistically, the most common nonverbal signal indicating insincerity is overly-frequent use of the forehead muscles. This is true regarding the entire width of the forehead, but in particular, if the central forehead is contracted and pulled upward (an elevated CFC) - and this is displayed chronically - regardless of what the remainder of the face is expressing, it screams of an overall pattern of insincerity (a low sincerity quotient). If one were to search for a classic example of this behavior, they'd have to look no further than Alex Jones.

























Summary: Alex Jones is chronically insincere. The frequent over-use of his forehead muscles, particularly his central forehead - is a profound nonverbal tell of insincerity.



























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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3972: Vladimir Putin, Oliver Stone, and a Facial Expression Red Flag

Body Language Analysis No. 3970: Kamala Harris and Jeff Sessions, Part II - Deception, Alpha, and Beta Behavior

Body Language Analysis No. 3968: The Grenfell Tower Fire, Empathy, and Emotional Processing

Body Language Analysis No. 3965: Manspreading, Madrid, and a Business Faux Pas

Body Language Analysis No. 3963: Donald Trump regarding James Comey and Loyalty

Body Language Analysis No. 3956: Keri Russell's Tongue

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3921: Kim Jong-un, North Korea, Alpha Status, and Clapping

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3856: "Belle" Clip - Beauty and the Beast

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3765: Conjoined twins Jadon and Anias McDonald - See each other directly for the first time


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Sunday, June 18, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3972: Vladimir Putin, Oliver Stone, and a Facial Expression Red Flag - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (VIDEO, PHOTOS)






When it's displayed frequently, one particular facial expression which should always send up a red flag.

What facial components make up this expression?
  • Elevated Central Forehead Contraction (CFC)
  • Partial Mouth Smile
Both the elevated CFC and the partial mouth smile must be present together.

Another feature, not required, yet is seen in this example as an amplifier is:

  • Partial Eyelid Closure

In the above promotional video of Oliver Stone's "The Putin Interviews", during 0:36 - 0:38, at the end of the sentence, "Suffice it to remember the Rosenberg spouses who were electrocuted", Vladimir Putin displays this precise cluster: his central forehead elevates, his mouth configures in a partial (suppressed) mouth smile, and his upper eyelids are partially closed (see image below).

In this context, this expression overlaps with the phenomena of what is known as "Duping Delight" - indicating that President Putin takes pleasure in the Rosenberg's execution (Julius and Ethel Rosenberg were United States citizens. After being convicted of committing espionage for the Soviet Union, they were executed. Coincidentally, their deaths occurred sixty-four years ago tomorrow - June 19, 1953).

Note the crucial caveat, "when it's displayed frequently" - for we all display this same face on occasion. We may use this expression when we're feeling:
  • Arrogance
  • Disbelief
  • Contempt
Contempt and arrogance are emotions which are overlapping in nature. It's also very important to note, that all three of these emotions can be displayed by way of other facial expressions.

Summary:  When a person displays an elevated central forehead contraction together with a partial (suppressed) mouth smile - and does so frequently, this has very high correlation with sociopathic behavior (Antisocial Personality Disorder).



























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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3971: Elon Musk, Amber Heard, Affection, and Ownership

Body Language Analysis No. 3969: Vladimir Putin Offers James Comey Asylum

Body Language Analysis No. 3967: Jeff Sessions' Testimony, Microexpressions, and Duping Delight 

Body Language Analysis No. 3964: What Donald Trump Really Thinks about James Comey

Body Language Analysis No. 3958: Vladimir Putin interview with Megyn Kelly

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3912: Keri Russell's Schadenfreude, Matthew Rhys' Fear, and a Hesitancy to Disclose

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3857: Taunting a Snowplow Driver - Belleville, Ontario

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3760: Rory McIlroy's "Little Interviews"

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 2979: "Tomorrowland" Trailer-teaser, Britt Robertson and Stanislavski


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Saturday, June 17, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3971: Elon Musk, Amber Heard, Affection, and Ownership - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (PHOTOS)





















Amber Heard is an accomplished actor. Elon Musk is one of the most influential people on the planet. Mera and the man who wants to colonize Mars have been romantically linked for months. Musk first became infatuated with Heard in 2013 during the filming of "Machete Kills", in which they both appeared. The image above is from Heard's Instagram taken during their recent trip to Australia.

From a body language perspective, when we lean on another person in public - it's an open declaration of "ownership". We want others to see we belong to each other. While hand and waist holding are certainly also are affectionate in nature, they too partially serve to send the same territorial signals - "We are a couple now". And although we didn't see Amber kiss Elon, her deliberate remnant of lipstick similarly marks her man.


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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3970: Kamala Harris and Jeff Sessions, Part II - Deception, Alpha, and Beta Behavior

Body Language Analysis No. 3968: The Grenfell Tower Fire, Empathy, and Emotional Processing

Body Language Analysis No. 3965: Manspreading, Madrid, and a Business Faux Pas

Body Language Analysis No. 3963: Donald Trump regarding James Comey and Loyalty

Body Language Analysis No. 3961: Mike Rogers' Testimony before the Senate Intelligence Committee

Body Language Analysis No. 3956: Keri Russell's Tongue

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3922: Vladimir Putin and Michael Flynn in Moscow

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3853: Tom Hiddleston, a School Play and Eddie Redmayne

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3802: Amanda Nunes, Ronda Rousey and UFC 207


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Friday, June 16, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3970: Kamala Harris and Jeff Sessions, Part II - Deception, Alpha, and Beta Behavior - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (VIDEO, PHOTOS)





The contrast in body language between Kamala Harris and Jeff Sessions during Sessions' testimony earlier this week was profound.


























Note the image above and immediately below - which are both representative of the Senator's and the Attorney General's nonverbal behavior during much of their exchange.

Senator Harris' upper arms, elbows, and forearms are held away from her torso at a modest angle. This indicates a level of high confidence. In contrast, Attorney General Sessions' upper arms, elbows, and forearms are all held close to his torso - in a protective mode, indicative of low confidence.

Senator Harris' hands are loose and not touching each other - also projecting a confident and alpha emotional tone. Attorney General Sessions' left hand is touching and covering his right hand. This self-touching of his hands (Manipulator, Adaptor, Pacifier aka MAP) - as well as their close proximity to his chest, further demonstrates a lower confidence, beta mindset.


























Another significant signal is the relative angle of their torsos - Harris' is leaning forward with her back away from her chair - toward Sessions, while Sessions is leaning at a considerable angle - away from Harris. This screams of Sessions' defense and Harris' assertiveness.

If we were endeavoring to prepare a witness for a testimony, deposition, or any type of legal proceeding - we would never advise him to conduct himself as Attorney General is behaving here. His body language is fearful - making him look as if he has something to hide.
























Later in the video, Senator Harris gestures with her right hand - and while she refrains from pointing with a finger - she does so modestly point with her pen. This is perhaps, one of the few times when such "surrogate pointing"/"pen-pointing" is advisable. It up-regulates her alpha-tone and it's intimidating to the Attorney General. And while it should not be performed too often (for it can backfire), pointing with a pen or pencil is not as not as harsh as pointing with one's finger (and highly discouraged).



 





















Now flashback to 4:16 - Senator Harris asks, "Before, before being sworn in as Attorney General, how did you c-, typically communicate with then candidate or President-Elect Trump?"

SESSIONS: "Ah, would you repeat that?"

HARRIS: "Before you were sworn in as Attorney General, how did you typically communicate with then candidate or then President-Elect Trump?"

SESSIONS: "Ummm"

HARRIS: [over-talking] "Did you communicate in writing?"

SESSIONS: "I did not submit memoranda. Ah, I did not, ahhh, make formal presentations."

HARRIS: "Did you ever communicate with him in writing?"

SESSIONS: "I don't believe so."

Note that Attorney General Sessions:
  • Asked for the question to be repeated
  • When Senator Harris was repeating her question, the Attorney General's hands moved beneath the table. 
  • He looked down to his right just before, and once again while he says, "Ummm"
Asking for a question to be repeated may, of course, simply be a hearing issue. However, it's also a very common stalling technique used to give a person a few seconds extra to formulate a response - rather than recall what occurred.


























The sudden dynamic of moving one's hands out of sight (whether beneath a table or in pockets) is a particularly telling gesture in the context of a testimony. This illustrator screams of low confidence and alone makes deception in this moment much more likely.

The lower right quadrant - where Sessions glances - is the direction most often looked toward while lying.

Summary: Attorney General Sessions body language behavior during his questioning by Senator Harris was highly correlative with low confidence. She was displaying alpha characteristics while he was considerably beta.

In addition, there is a high likelihood Jeff Sessions was being deceptive and that he did correspond with Donald Trump in writing prior to Sessions being sworn in as Attorney General.


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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3969: Vladimir Putin Offers James Comey Asylum

Body Language Analysis No. 3967: Jeff Sessions' Testimony, Microexpressions, and Duping Delight

Body Language Analysis No. 3964: What Donald Trump Really Thinks about James Comey

Body Language Analysis No. 3962: James Comey's Testimony

Body Language Analysis No. 3960: James Comey, Critical Evaluation, and The Side-Eye

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3918: The Image of Kim Jong-un He Most Prefers the World to See

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3862: Oscars Mistake - "La La Land" erroneously named Best Picture over "Moonlight"

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3798: Elle Fanning, Channing Tatum and Dialing Up the Alpha

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3741: Bryan Cranston, Benedict Cumberbatch, Weddings and Tears


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Thursday, June 15, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3969: Vladimir Putin Offers James Comey Asylum - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (VIDEO, PHOTOS)





Earlier today, Russian President Vladimir Putin compared James Comey to Edward Snowden. He also offered the former FBI Director political asylum. The video above shows this excerpt from his press conference.
























Note at the very end of this clip, just after President Putin says, "By the way, if he faces any kind of prosecution in this regard, we will provide political asylum in Russia for him as well. He should be aware of that" - Putin briefly but forcefully retracts his jaw (during 0:51). This jaw retraction is shown below (the image above was about a second later and is included for reference).








Try retracting your jaw right now. When performed to this degree, it's uncomfortable.

Jaw retraction accompanying a declarative statement is a signal of regret. Of course, President Putin is a (hyper) alpha. He can say whatever he wants - and yet, in this moment, we see him momentarily slip into a beta emotional mindset. He immediately had regrets in making this statement and he believed he over-stepped.

Summary: Recognizing when an alpha personality slips into beta mode will expose to you their Achilles' Heel - and is a skill of profound value. Immediately after he made the statement, Vladimir Putin regretted offering James Comey political asylum.


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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3968: The Grenfell Tower Fire, Empathy, and Emotional Processing

Body Language Analysis No. 3965: Manspreading, Madrid, and a Business Faux Pas

Body Language Analysis No. 3963: Donald Trump regarding James Comey and Loyalty

Body Language Analysis No. 3961: Mike Rogers' Testimony before the Senate Intelligence Committee

Body Language Analysis No. 3959: Vladimir Putin - Megyn Kelly Interview, Part II

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3896: Did Matthew Perry Really Beat Up Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau?

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3872: "Fearless Girl" Statue in Manhattan's Financial District

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3861: Emma Stone, The Oscars and Sincerity

Dating & Romance Nonverbal Communication Secret No. 1010:  What Makes the Twinkle in Her Eye? - Rashida Jones


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Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3968: The Grenfell Tower Fire, Empathy, and Emotional Processing - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (PHOTOS)
























This image above (and close-up below) shows one of the firefighters from yesterday's Grenfell Tower Fire in North Kensington, West London, England. At the time of this writing, the tragedy has claimed at least twelve lives while seventy-seven people have been injured - twenty critically.

Touching one's face during or after sudden or dramatic news/experiences - is a signal of emotional processing. Said another way, this is a manifestation of a type of dissonance - for while the intellect may "know" what has just occurred, the emotional brain is still trying to understand and come to terms with its ramifications.

This phenomenon is seen both with tragedies and also with very good news - however, it's not a universal nonverbal signal. Some people don't exhibit this behavior - or do so much less frequently. Facial touching in such scenarios indicates higher empathy quotients - while those who do not display this MAP (Manipulator, Adaptor, Pacifier) have lower empathy levels.

My deepest condolences for all those who have suffered in this horrific event. 


























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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3967: Jeff Sessions' Testimony, Microexpressions, and Duping Delight

Body Language Analysis No. 3964: What Donald Trump Really Thinks about James Comey

Body Language Analysis No. 3962: James Comey's Testimony

Body Language Analysis No. 3960: James Comey, Critical Evaluation, and The Side-Eye

Body Language Analysis No. 3958: Vladimir Putin interview with Megyn Kelly

Body Language Analysis No. 3956: Keri Russell's Tongue

Body Language Analysis No. 3948: The Manchester Bomber, Nonverbal Communication, Threat Assessment, and Emotional Intelligence

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3864: Uber's CEO, Travis Kalanick Arguing with an Uber Driver regarding Falling Fares - Escalation v. De-Escalation, Body Language and Emotional Intelligence

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3799: Carrie Fisher and Princess Leia - Full Lips and Lip Pursing


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Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3967: Jeff Sessions' Testimony, Microexpressions, and Duping Delight - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (VIDEO, PHOTOS)





Earlier today, during his testimony before the Senate Intelligence Committee, Jeff Sessions displayed excellent examples of microexpressions while being questioned by Kamala Harris. What follows is a partial nonverbal analysis of just a few seconds of this crucial exchange.

Beginning at 0:44, Senator Harris say, "Is that policy in writing somewhere?"

Attorney General Sessions responds, "Ah, I, I think so?"

Senator Harris: "So did you not consult it before you came before - this committee knowing we would ask you questions about it?"





























Jeff Sessions displays suppressed mile No. 1 during 0:46 - just after Senator Harris says, "... somewhere?"



























He showed us a second suppressed smile during 0:47 as the AG says, "Ah, I, I think so."




























The third microexpression of this brief cluster (and in may ways the best of the three) occurs a second later, during 0:48, just before Senator Harris says, "... not ...". It's quite classic and although subtle - it's highly significant.

While none of these three (still) images are dramatic, they are much more noticeable when viewed in the dynamic context of video. Please watch this several times at regular speed and again at half speed.

A suppressed smile is a form of/overlaps with the phenomenon of "Duping Delight" (Ekman). It's often seen when a person is taking pleasure in fooling others - while simultaneously trying to suppress his outward expression of joy. While it's understandable if a person is reacting to an attempt a levity - smiling during any type of hearing is highly out of context behavior. And even more so, the act of suppressing a smile - is a strong indicator of deception.

The simultaneous paralanguage signals of stuttering, as well as the lack of a definitive "Yes" - rather than, "Ah, I, I think so" - are also congruous with deception.

Summary: Jeff Sessions was, with high probability, being deceptive to Kamala Harris, when he spoke of the above noted "longstanding DOJ policy" for his legal basis for refusing to answer questions about his communications with President Trump today during his testimony.


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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3965: Manspreading, Madrid, and a Business Faux Pas

Body Language Analysis No. 3963: Donald Trump regarding James Comey and Loyalty

Body Language Analysis No. 3961: Mike Rogers' Testimony before the Senate Intelligence Committee

Body Language Analysis No. 3959: Vladimir Putin - Megyn Kelly Interview, Part II

Body Language Analysis No. 3957: Sergei Gorkov, Jared Kushner, and Secret Meetings

Body Language Analysis No. 3955: Jeff Sessions, Russia, and Sergey Kislyak

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3873: Brie Larson's Eyes, The Bachelor, and the Edge of Consciousness

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3829: Mary Tyler Moore - Flirtatious, Sexy, Alpha Female Smile

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3801: Marion Cotillard, Lip Syncing and Honest Anxiety


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Monday, June 12, 2017

Body Language Analysis No. 3965: Manspreading, Madrid, and a Business Faux Pas - Nonverbal and Emotional Intelligence (PHOTOS)
























Recently the city of Madrid has taken measures to limit "Manspreading" on public transportation. Manpreading is the colloquial term for the "Seated Crotch Display" wherein a person (almost always a man) sits with his legs spread wide - thus exposing his crotch. The feet are most frequently positioned sole-downward and the elbows are often protruding laterally in a "maximum space mode".

On a bus, subway, plane, or in other public areas - manspreading is done at the expense - often dramatically - of those seated adjacently.

In crowded public situations, we typically suspend our personal space (intimate space) norms which would never apply to other scenarios. For example, we may touch shoulders, elbows, and upper arms of those sitting next to us on a crowded airplane, because we have no choice and the idea of shared space takes over. But not everyone observes this in equal fashion.

Many men will often default into a manspreading configuration. And while it's certainly no excuse, some men will go a lifetime without realizing what they're doing makes those seated next to them emotionally (and physically) very uncomfortable. 

Why do men do this? There are several reasons. In a public setting, the seated crotch display is a mode of asserting dominance - very much akin to young male gorillas beating on their chests. Manspreading in these crowed settings is a type of alpha/hyper-alpha, and often narcissistic behavior.

Men who are in straight, platonic relationships will often sit around a table in this manner. And provided they're relatively equal in the pecking order, men will also do this in a friendly professional/work setting.

Men who manspread frequently very likely have low empathy quotients. 

Although most commonly exhibited by straight men, people of all sexual orientations will also sit in a seated crotch display fashion when sexually attracted to another person. In such cases they usually "crotch point" (and foot point) toward the desired individual.




A tremendous problem is created, however, when men use the seated crotch display in professional settings when women are present - or when a subordinate male sits in this manner in the presence of his superior (regardless of their gender). It's particularly common and extremely offensive in the case of male-female business settings. Many men won't ever realize just how often this, and similar actions, will evoke strong negative conditioned responses in women. This occurs to the point of creating other secondary problems, which on the surface don't seem to be related, yet will precipitate the killing of potential sales and negotiations. In such interactions, manspreading is very frequently accompanied by other alpha, hyper-alpha, and narcissistic verbal language, paralanguage, and body language behavior.


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See also:

Body Language Analysis No. 3964: What Donald Trump Really Thinks about James Comey 

Body Language Analysis 3962: James Comey's Testimony

Body Language Analysis No. 3960: James Comey, Critical Evaluation, and The Side-Eye

Body Language Analysis No. 3958: Vladimir Putin interview with Megyn Kelly

Body Language Analysis No. 3956: Keri Russell's Tongue

Body Language Analysis No. 3951: Angela Merkel, Donald Trump, the G7 Summit, and The Paris Agreement

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3911: Simone Biles gets Pranked on "Ellen"

Romance, Flirting & Dating Body Language Secret No. 1893:  Nonverbal Communication of the Facial Platter

Romance, Marriage and Dating Body Language Secret No. 424:  'Til Death Do Us Part....Fossilized Love

Nonverbal Communication Analysis No. 3351: A Body Language Signal of Sincere Affection


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